Commenter bobsutan from Rational Male exhibits–in a couple of sentences–a wealth of information about the inner-workings of the strong, independent woman (TM):
“I’ve been saying it for a few years now, feminists chasing careers are simply projecting. They area attracted to men of high status (eg high income), so they attempt to emulate this attractive quality in hopes men will find them as attractive as they do of wealthy men.” (http://therationalmale.com/2013/06/04/cant-buy-me-alpha/)
Men do the same thing. They buff up. It helps. But the central attraction is attitude.